A professor stood before his Philosophy class and had some items in front of him.
When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.
He then asked the students if the jar was full.
They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.
He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.
He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.
He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “yes.”
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.
The golf balls are the important things – your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else–the small stuff.
If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
The same goes for life.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.
Play with your children.
Take time to get medical checkups.
Take your partner out to dinner.
Play another 18.
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.
Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter.
Set your priorities. “The rest is just sand.”
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.
The professor smiled. “I’m glad you asked.
It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a cup of coffee with a friend.
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Fire-Walking Festival @ Sri Mariamman Temple 16 oct 2011: Feelings, Emotions & Mood
I have been taking pictures for many years. In order to keep this passion of mine going, I try to focus on a theme or subject every 6 months to make it interesting. Since Singapore is such a multicultural society, I decided that my photography focus/subject and plan for the next 6 months will be on the various interesting cultures in Singapore. When the opportunity came to capture this year's Fire Walking Festival up close and personal at the Sri Mariamman Temple , I brought my camera along.
It was a wonderful and educational 6-hr experience for me. I was free to move around in the temple and had many wonderful conversations that helped me to appreciate this amazing festival. O.k. I know what you are thinking...Don't ask me how I was able to gain full access. Just enjoy my pictures and learn more about this wonderful culture and festival.
I hope these pictures will not only give you an interesting visual experience but also help you to understand the history behind the Fire Walking Festival. Enjoy!
Sri Mariamman Temple is the oldest Hindu temple in Singapore. Built in 1827, Mariamman Kovil or Kling Street Temple as it was popularly known then was constructed for worship by immigrants from the Nagapatnam and Cuddalore districts of South India. The temple is dedicated to Goddess Mariamman, known for her power in curing epidemic illnesses and diseases.
Located in the heart of Chinatown, the temple’s ornamental tower entrance or gopuram, has been a landmark to generations of Hindu worshippers and Singaporeans alike. Please log on to the Sri Mariamman Temple website to find out more.
This is a very amazing temple. Very colourful and nicely decorated. When I entered the temple, I can sense intense calmness and peace. The temple has very nicely decorated ceilings and paintings all over. It was indeed a visual treat for me.
Fire walking is the major event of Singapore's Theemidhi Festival, which takes place close to the start of Deepavali, the Festival of Lights. Barefoot Hindus walk across white-hot embers at the Sri Mariamman Temple in honour of the goddess Draupadi. Theemithi (Thimithi) or "firewalking" is done as part of a religious vow in which the devotee promises to walk on fire in exchange for a wish or blessing granted by the Goddess Draupadi.
This is goddess Draupadi. She was placed directly in front of the fire pit to "witness" the fire walking of the devotees.
Draupadi is a heroine of the epic poem Mahabharata, a princess who was the subject of her husband's wager in a game of dice he played with his cousin, Duryodhana, and lost. She had to prove her innocence and fidelity by walking barefoot over hot coals. That was not her only hardship; indeed she epitomises harsh treatment of women by men. Devotees walk barefoot across a four-metre pit of red-hot coals. It is said that if a devotee is not pure, he or she will fail the test and be burnt. Fire-walkers observe strict vegetarianism and fasting rituals for weeks before to complete the challenge miraculously unscathed.
The preparation period before the actual fire walking day is traditionally eighteen days. I was told that the preparation of the pit is a very elaborated affair. A special kind of wood that can burn for a long time was used for the pit. Before the pit can be ready for fire walking, a lot of work needs to be done. I had the privilege of witnessing the entire process. Please allow my pictures to tell the story...
He's so HOT! Literally...
Yes. it can be a very "heated up" expereince. I was standing about 3-4 meters away from the pit and I cannot last more than 10 mins. It was really very hot! The helpers and volunteers around the the fire walking pit needed to wet themselves regularly with water to prevent their skin from burning.
These were the volunteers and helpers for the festival. A final briefing before the fire walking starts! The crowd was really excited! Lots of cheering and screaming everywhere. The music was also blasting non-stop in the background.
Emotions and devotion of some of the Devotees in the temple. Feelings were intense and strong. I can feel it when I look at the pictures below. Can you?
I was not peeping at the ladies from the top. I was just captivated by the colors presented to me when I looked down. Had to capture this shot.
The "band" was really amazing. Background tunes were playing non-stop and these musicians were expected to play on until the entire ceremony is over. That will be from 6 p.m. to about 4 a.m. Gosh!
More pictures from the fire walking festival. And guess who I saw at the temple... Yes, our immediate past President S. R. Nathan of Singapore! I was told that he attends the ceremony every year without fail. Lots of cheering when he arrived. A popular guy in the community....obviously.
I was told that about 5,000 people were at the temple to witness the ceremony. The organisers were expecting about 10,000 devotees to walk the fire pit throughout the night. Wow!
Try sneaking into the temple? No way. This was the "security system" they had. Very big and imposing standing right in front of the main entrance. Very effective I must say! Ha Ha...
One of the Indian names for the fire walking ritual is 'Pookulithal' which means 'walking on a bed of flowers', presumably because of the belief that Draupadi cools the coals for her devotees, making them like flowers.
I observed that different devotees reacted differently. Most ran across as quickly as possible, with their feet sinking into the intensely hot ash. But others walked slowly, palms of hands pressed together in an attitude of meditation. For many it appears to be a considerable ordeal, not easily accomplished, and some on arriving at the other side appeared on the verge of collapse, as they prostrated themselves before the Goddess Draupadi. One thing for sure, they got tremendous verbal and physical support and encouragement from the crowd.
These volunteers wrapped in wet towels (to keep themselves moisted to prevent skin burns) were the "supporters or guardians" of the fire pit. Their job was to ensure the devotees cross the pit successfully. If anyone loses their balance and fall, they will be there to pull them out immediately. Certain devotees believed themselves to have become possessed by a deity who will bestow extraordinary powers on them.These devotees would behave in a very unstable way and they will start swaying and behave aggressively. When I was there, I personally witnessed several "trance" transitions. Very interesting. The "supporters and guardians" role is critical when the devotees are in "trance" when they cross the pit. Heard many scary and interesting stories from past ceremonies. I salute these "supporters and guardians"!
Yes, there was a medical tentage located out of sight from the main pit. When I was there, 2 devotees were evacuated to the hospital for really bad burns. The tentage was staff by female volunteers to help injured fire walkers.
Yes, I love SG too! Hey, this guy looks like a "foreign Talent"???
A well spent 6 hours in the temple I must say. I hope you have enjoyed my pictures and do visit this blog regularly for updates. Cheers!
Jim
REFERENCES
K. D. Bhagavati. 'Sakti cult in South India', in The Cultural Heritage of India, V o 1.1V. Ramakrishna Mission. 1983.
Alleyn Diesel. . Hindu Firewalking in Natal' in the Journal for the Study of Religio/J, Vol. 3. No. I, March 1990.
Internet sources on temple write-up:
To find out more about this ritual and its history, check out this link:
http://infopedia.nl.sg/articles/SIP_762_2004-12-23.html
http://infopedia.nl.sg/articles/SIP_762_2004-12-23.html
There are many YouTube videos on the Internet as well. Check them out.
Monday, October 17, 2011
Leadership Moments 2/2011
Leaders are effective communicators
if they ask good questions!
Because…
You are as good a leader as the questions you ask of your people everyday. All your learning and effectiveness as a leader are in the questions you ask yourself and the people around you everyday.
Sharing…
In my 15-year career in a uniformed organisation, I’ve learnt that (as a leader) if you are communicating all the time without listening and asking questions, you would definitely miss out on important perspectives. You can be very efficient in your communication (e.g. talking, pointing, directing, giving orders/instructions and telling, etc), but not necessary effective.
I’ve learnt that the questions I ask are as important as the answers I give. I’ve learnt that is it impossible to have great answers for the people I lead if I don’t have great questions. Great questions are key foundation to great answers. I am only as good a leader as the questions I ask.
Some questions I like to ask my people…
- What’s your passion? What excites you?
- Jimmy wants to be a good leader, what can I do better? (FeedForward)
- What are your key learning points from this incident/experience?
Some questions I like to ask myself…
- How have I contributed to this? (Especially when things go wrong)
- What must I change to become better as a leader?
- What did I learn today about others and myself?
Yes, leadership is difficult! It’s a tough job if you want to perform well. Very often, you will feel like quitting. It’s so much easier if you just become a follower with no responsibility, sitting back and relax!
Ask the right questions, leadership will be a great self-discovery journey.
Ask the wrong questions, leadership will be a painful process.
So?
What will you be asking yourself about your leadership today?
What are the key questions you would ask your people in order to lead them better?
What are you responsible for when things go wrong?
Please share with me your thinking or comments...
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Why Am I doing this?
Leadership is a journey for me. I was exposed to various leadership roles at a very young age when I joined the uniformed group during my secondary school days. Over the years, I’ve learnt quite a bit about leadership from reading, observations and experimentation.
As the saying goes, nothing beats doing it! My career in a uniformed organisation for the past 15 years provided me with ample opportunities to hone my leadership skills. I am very thankful that my organisation has a very strong culture of leadership. My organisation pays attention to develop people, they tolerate mistakes and they genuinely cares. Much of my learning and reflections on leadership are from the excellent leaders I have worked with over the years. These wonderful leaders shape the leader I am today.
Leadership is something that is learned. No one is born a leader. We are all capable of being a good leader. Of course, not everyone can be the top leader. However, everyone does have the capacity to lead in some way—but ACTION is required! While all of us are born with many different abilities, but if we do not harness and develop them, those abilities will never come to fruition. Leadership is one such ability.
I hope to share some of my learning and experiences on leadership in bite size in my blog. I hope “Leadership Moments” will help you in your journey towards becoming a great leader in your own right. Remember, knowing is not good enough, you have to take ACTION if you want your leadership potential and abilities to be developed.
All the best in your leadership journey.
Jim
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Friday, October 14, 2011
“What you are in love with, what seizes your imagination, will affect everything. It will decide what gets you out of bed in the mornings, what you do with your evenings, how you spend your weekends, what you read, who you know, what breaks your heart, and what amazes you. Fall in love, stay in love, and it will decide everything.”
Pedro Arrupe (1907-1991)
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Sunday, October 9, 2011
Life Begins When You Do
"Nearly everyone postpones one grand thing or a collection of mighty hopes and dreams.
Between the quote marks of our lives are phrases like these: "When things slow down...when I finish my degree...when I get certified...as I acquire a deeper knowledge base...when I have kids...when the kids are grown...when I get well...when I marry...when I divorce...when I retire...when I get that promotion, that raise, that job, that house, that whatever the fill-in-the blank is for your specific postponing of life..."
Your Life Begins When You Do.
You may think you are postponing the longing of your soul until life aligns itself with your vision, until elements conspire to be more favorable...but as it happens, life just lolls along at the same remarkable consistent and disinterested cadence. Life is impartial. YOUR personal, subjective life (dreams, satisfactions, contentment, achievements, vision, fullness, passion, aspirations) begins when you begin.
From my teens into adulthood, I said, "I want to be an artist." One day I changed the sentence to, "I am an artist." My view changed. Life began. I looked behind me and saw that I had been accidentally living as an artist. I had been laying down a path that was only now visible to eyes that had begun to see. Beginning my life as an artist made my heart's longing and the small, tentative labors of my hands - visible and tangible. I began by opening the door and simply believing that I could live my dream. I began living that dream by seeing that I could.
Your purpose, that thing that among the many to-dos of your days, is what you must do. Embrace the truth of your purpose each minute of your precious life...for how very true it is that life begins when you do."
If you would dream it
BEGIN it.
If you have an idea
OPEN it.
If there is longing
ACKNOWLEDGE it.
If there is mission
COMMIT it.
If there is daring
DO it.
If there is love
SPEAK it.
If there is resource
USE it.
If there is abundance
SHARE it.
An excerpt from
Life Begins When You Do
by Mary Anne Radmacher
Between the quote marks of our lives are phrases like these: "When things slow down...when I finish my degree...when I get certified...as I acquire a deeper knowledge base...when I have kids...when the kids are grown...when I get well...when I marry...when I divorce...when I retire...when I get that promotion, that raise, that job, that house, that whatever the fill-in-the blank is for your specific postponing of life..."
Your Life Begins When You Do.
You may think you are postponing the longing of your soul until life aligns itself with your vision, until elements conspire to be more favorable...but as it happens, life just lolls along at the same remarkable consistent and disinterested cadence. Life is impartial. YOUR personal, subjective life (dreams, satisfactions, contentment, achievements, vision, fullness, passion, aspirations) begins when you begin.
From my teens into adulthood, I said, "I want to be an artist." One day I changed the sentence to, "I am an artist." My view changed. Life began. I looked behind me and saw that I had been accidentally living as an artist. I had been laying down a path that was only now visible to eyes that had begun to see. Beginning my life as an artist made my heart's longing and the small, tentative labors of my hands - visible and tangible. I began by opening the door and simply believing that I could live my dream. I began living that dream by seeing that I could.
Your purpose, that thing that among the many to-dos of your days, is what you must do. Embrace the truth of your purpose each minute of your precious life...for how very true it is that life begins when you do."
If you would dream it
BEGIN it.
If you have an idea
OPEN it.
If there is longing
ACKNOWLEDGE it.
If there is mission
COMMIT it.
If there is daring
DO it.
If there is love
SPEAK it.
If there is resource
USE it.
If there is abundance
SHARE it.
An excerpt from
Life Begins When You Do
by Mary Anne Radmacher
Friday, October 7, 2011
Inspirational Quote for the day...
Source: http://www.inspirationfeed.com/inspiration/typography-inspiration/55-inspiring-quotations-that-will-change-the-way-you-think/
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